I’ve had many clients say to me , “It’s impossible for me to have fun without being high or drunk or being sober is so boring.” At first yes it probably is boring to do things without being high, I mean if being high didn’t make you feel good, people wouldn’t do it. There is good news there are a number of strategies and resources at your disposal that can help you limit your substance use and get involved in substance-free activities where you can have a good time. You don’t have to set out on this challenge alone– it’s okay to reach out to a supportive friend, relative, or a professional, who can help you stay on course.
As you begin to reduce your substance use, take some time to reflect on what makes you feel happy and fulfilled. Sharpening your awareness of your social, professional, and spiritual interests can go a long way towards finding activities that excite you and people who share your interests outside of substance use. Consider these suggestions to get you started: organizations that work toward a cause in which you strongly believe, athletic groups, political campaigns, reading circles, writing and theatrical clubs When you find what you’re into, you might also invite your current group of friends to join you in some fun without substances. Getting involved in these types of activities may also pave the way to new friendships that don’t revolve around on using substances. Here are more ideas you can enjoy by yourself or with others.
- Work out at the gym, try a new group exercise class, or plan to go running or walking outside.
- Visit museums or take a trip to a zoo or aquarium (any of which may offer discounted admission for students or on certain days).
- Try being a tourist in your own city and find the hidden treasures by exploring new neighborhoods.
- Try perusing websites like meetup.com to find other people in your area that share your interests. If you don’t find a group that you’re into, you can have like-minded individuals seeking you out by creating a special-interest group of your own.
It’s also understandable that you may want to still see your friends who still use. If they were even your friends in the first place. Most of the time, you are useless to your addict friends if you quit.. It is possible to avoid the temptations of alcohol or other substances.. By engaging in some pre-planning before a night out, you can think ahead about how much you want to consume (if at all) and how to politely decline offers of alcohol or anything else that might come your way. Start by thinking about how you’d ideally like to handle a situation when someone offers or encourages you to have a drink or take a hit. Some responses could include: “Thanks, but I’m cutting back for a while,” or “No, I have a drug test tomorrow.” It may also help to let others know that you’ve set a personal limit for the night or have stopped using if you find that helps you stick to your plan. There are also activities you can do that may help you check in with your internal state and strengthen your resolve to limit your substance use. Learning yoga, meditation, mindfulness, and other relaxation techniques have helped many on the same road to coping with stress resulting from this change in lifestyle, as well as provide motivation for improving mind-body health.
Remember, reducing any degree of psychological or physical dependence on substances takes time, and can be achieved through measured reductions in use. In addition to filling your time with other activities and interests, it’s a good idea to consider speaking with a counselor or therapist. A therapist or counselor can help you define specific goals regarding your use, including how much you’d like to cut back and at what pace, which may make for a transition.
Best of luck on the road to personal change!